What does virginity mean to a queer person, who may never have vaginal intercourse in her/his/hir life? What of a lesbian who chooses to never engage in any sort of penetrative sex act her entire life, does she remain some sort of super, extra virgin? If a straight man receives a blowjob, he will in all likelihood still consider himself a virgin, but a gay man receiving a blowjob may have a more complicated understanding of what it means for his sex life. In many ways, our conception of “virginity” erases or invalidates queer sex.
Virginity: Ditch It (sexposgrrrl)
It is said it takes seven years
to grow completely new skin cells.
To think, this year I will grow
into a body you never will have touched. Brett Elizabeth Jenkins (via winonaryderfanclub)
to grow completely new skin cells.
To think, this year I will grow
into a body you never will have touched. Brett Elizabeth Jenkins (via winonaryderfanclub)
Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep travelling honestly along life’s path.
Street Smarts: A Learning Process: 11 Things to Know at 25(ish)
